The Conversation Guy

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De-Fragmenting Life

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Have you ever noticed that many of us create various separate lives for ourselves? Well, I am realizing that I am too disorganized to do that effectively…

I had a coffee chat downtown with my friend Caleb this morning to catch up and brainstorm about my new blog because he also loves connecting with people. We chatted about our mutual desire to bridge the different areas of our lives. Our chat gave me better clarity of what I want to accomplish through this blog. As readers, you will probably not agree with everything I believe – from my faith, to political views, to my taste in coffee. But, I don’t want to hide any of that. I want to practice being open with different people about all of the above, while also learning more about others’ beliefs. I’ve always been frustrated that people are often not very real about who they are. I think we often don’t share certain things about our lives because we are afraid they may be different from someone else’s, but I’m realizing that is what makes life dynamic. I want to learn how to better communicate all aspects of my life, while always being open to learn from others.

For instance, I am a Christian, I play the guitar, I am fairly extroverted and love interacting with all types of people, and I work in the conservative think-tank / policy world in D.C. Yet my interests far exceed policy and politics. And I do not want to only talk to folks who believe everything I do – there’s no fun (or learning) in that. I want to make sure I am always honest about who I am in all areas of my life, while constantly remaining open to be challenged by the beliefs and experiences of others.

To thank Caleb for his inspiration, I want to pass on information on a project he is working on. He’s a writer and film maker and he is working with the U.S. State Department on a worldwide video contest on “What is Democracy?” Check it out –

Join the conversation – please post comments and/or email with stories or thoughts you would like me to write about.


Written by theconversationguy

October 22, 2009 at 1:45 pm

Posted in Cafe Chats

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  1. There is at least one more of us out here who enjoy people that want to be real, and to have open, honest conversations even if our beliefs or opinions differ! It’s not easy being transparent in the blogging world. Some readers and commenters don’t seem to know how to respect opinions or beliefs that are different than their own, especially where Christian’s are concerned.

    Tracy Milstead

    October 22, 2009 at 4:22 pm

  2. I think the aspiration is awesome, but I’m also noting the irony that, to be transparent, we must also be opaque and transluscent.

    For instance, you might not identify your current employer or ex-girlfriend right-off-the-bat to folks, because they might instantly jump to superficial labels and kill the disclosure process.

    It reminds me a bit of an old dialogue that starts “Woman, will you give me a drink of water?” and ends “I who to speak to you am he”.

    caveat bettor

    October 23, 2009 at 2:10 pm

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